Little Grape got back from his visits today and came bearing gifts. Dad bought him 6 or 7 onesies and 3 news pairs of socks. Couple things...I am really happy to see that he wants to provide (in some way at least) for the baby even though he is not in care. Mom has never bought him anything. However, I really wish that it was clothing I felt comfortable putting him in on more than visit day. Little Man's mom did the same thing. Their style is just not my style and I would feel silly walking around with a baby dressed in these clothes! lol! Maybe I'm just a little too plain?? :) The other thing is that apparently (almost 3 months into this) dad informed the FRS that he is adamant that he wants socks on the baby's feet. Here is a clear example of how he does not know his son. The boy sweats SO MUCH and his feet are always moist from sweat...they just are. So when he got back in thick, terry cloth socks I was surprised for sure. Another little tidbit...it's 90 here today!!!! At least I'm still "allowed" to put LG in jeans :)
So...just as in Little Man's situation...the clothes will be worn on visit day only and the kid will have to suffer for a couple of hours each week during the visit with hot feet.....whatever! LOL!
I can't believe that in a few short days we will be at 3 months with LG! I really did not think that it would be this long considering Dad has no allegations. The sad part is that at a minimum it will probably be at least several more before we know anything. I got another perspective on the case yesterday and I am feeling a little more concerned for LG and his future should he go home to Dad :( Only time will tell! I can rest knowing he is in God's hands!!
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The clothing situation keeps it interesting. My girl's mom gave her clothes that were just plain too small. I gave them back at the next visit. But she's also given her clothes that I would never put a child in. And since she wears uniforms to school and I don't change her clothes when she gets home, there will be a few outfits that will just never get worn ever.
Oh, the clothing! I've learned NOT to be offended when they change them at visits. I also have learned to ONLY dress them in clothing provided by the parents for visits...until they complained that their clothes are torn, stained, and the wrong size at a CRB hearing. On the few occasions I've sent them in clothing I've purchased, or family members of mine...it's not come back. That is fun :) I guess it's one of the few things that they can control...manipulate to a certain extent. It can be very frustrating however!
PRAYING!!! It can be soo hard. Our birth families randomly gave things sometimes to the kids literally 3 times in 3 years....and they never fit. Always way too small or were shorts in the middle of winter kind of thing. Oh dear....
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