Thursday, September 19, 2013

CM visit

Today was the monthly CM visit.  I haven't seen her since the bonding assessment report came back.  She said that the report was very favorable toward us and basically said he should stay with us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I was told that the judge requested to see this report directly and prior to having the necessary hearing. 

Rewind about 12 months....we had that modicafication of placement hearing where we thought FOR SURE that he would be leaving us.  Well, as you all know he didn't :)  What needs to happen from here is that it basically happens again.  We have the same  "modification of placement" hearing before the same judge and she determines where Choo Choo will live forever!!!

What are we waiting for????

THE JUDGE!!!  I thought that the OAG would be scheduling the hearing, but since the report went directly to the judge we wait for her to schedule the hearing!!  I am praying this happens before the given estimation of November!

The CM stated that since she thinks the judge will not change Choo Choo's placement (did she really just say that????!!!!) that we will be getting sent to ADOPTIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  We have a standard JR hearing on Oct 1st and she thinks that I'll probably get to meet our new worker that day!!!!! 

OH HAPPY DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Of course I have a foot in reality that the judge could still rule in the aunt/uncle's favor, but it is looking REALLY good that we will have a 4th FOREVER SON!!!!!

Could the end REALLY be in sight?????

Happy tears!!!!

Thursday, September 12, 2013

Bonding assessment

It's been awhile since I've posted here.....FB makes things so convenient!

Where we are at in the process

Both bonding assessments have been completed and I finally got the results the other day.  It said pretty much what I expected.  Choo Choo is comfortable in both environments and would do fine in either placement but that he is more bonded to us.  Choo Choo has been visiting with his aunt/uncle for over a year and a half.  I would expect him to be comfortable. 

Now, we wait for THE court date!  At this court hearing (placement hearing) it will be decided.  The psychologist will testify as to what she saw and her personal opinion (which was not stated in the report).  At this point I would say we and aunt/uncle are on even footing.  We have length of time/bonding and they have blood and comfortability.  The final decision will be up to the judge that day.  I have been told that I may need to get on the stand and testify.  I am not looking forward to that part, but I will do whatever it takes.  A friend on FB said that he may be fine in either placement, but there is ONE where he will thrive :) 

In the next several days 2 friends will be saying goodbye to their long-term placements.  They are both believers and have placed these children in His very capable hands, but those mama hearts will be hurting.  I don't want to be in their places, but hubby and I are preparing our hearts and believing for a miracle but trusting in God's will at the very same time...whether it hurts or not.

Several friends have been posting this song and it so fits a foster momma's feelings :)