Friday, January 3, 2014

A bit more....

Our atty asked me in questioning about the whole Permanent Guardianship thing.  I told her that when asked we were not open to it (after speaking to others and a lawyer) because we wanted to give him the same status as all of our other children.  We want him to share the same last name as all of our other children.  We want a sense of normalcy for him.  PG would make him different from our other kids.  He deserves ADOPTION!

In the judges closing remarks she said that in all her years on the bench she's never heard a foster parent say gracious of us.  UGH!  That makes me angry and I'm wondering how every other foster parent has answered!  EVERY child deserves PERMANENCY!!!!!!!!!  This system is so broken and misguided! 

I'm not going to go off on any rants right now because the emotions are still too raw, but.....things must change!

Several sweet family members/friends have posted on their FB pages about us and we appreciate all the calls/texts and messages!  It breaks my heart though to hear that our story is discouraging other people from pursuing foster care.  Is there sadness today? YES!  Is there sheer heartbreak? YES!!! 

Was it worth it?? YYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We have NO regrets about welcoming in, loving and caring for our son.  Yes, to us he will ALWAYS be our son!  God call us to a life of obedience NOT ease and comfort.  If you are comfortable in life then you probably are not being open and obedient to Him.  Choo Choo is my offering back to God.  We sacrificed so much over the past three years, but it wasn't for Choo Choo....we sacrificed for God.  Choo Choo is HIS.  As much as we love him, God loves him more and His ways are not our ways. 

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not get "turned off" to foster care because you might have to sacrifice and hurt.  Do it for God and nothing will return void. 


Dawn Wright said...

AMEN!!! The LORD WILL NEVER ALLOW ANYTHING DONE FOR HIM TO BE WORTHLESS!!!! God's name will be praised even though it may be through tears for we know that HE WORKS ALL THINGS TOGETHER FOR THE GOOD OF THOSE THAT LOVE HIM!!!! PRAYING.....and beautiful words of hope to all!!!!

Mamma said...

I am so sorry about the Judges decision....I was really hoping and praying you would get Choo Choo. I am in the process of becoming a foster parent and can tell you that this did not scare me away in anyway...I am still gonna go full force ahead and love with all of my heart. I am so glad that you did and your family is an example of what foster families should be like!! You are all in my hearts and prayers during this difficult time. Hugs

StarfishMom said...

Amen and amen!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story. We have been foster parents for two years and are still in shock over how corrupt the "system" is. We adore our kids, and our ultimate goal is to adopt them (any of them). So far, four kids, two whose caseworkers told us face-to-face that they were going to TPR and that we would stand a good chance of adopting them, one who was with us for 15 months, and three have been returned to abusive/using/neglectful mothers. We just brought one home who was with us last spring. The opportunity to love them like our own. . .to be the hands/feet/kisses/voice/heart of Jesus is sooo worth it, but our hearts just keep breaking over and over again. And it's so very hard to pray for their parents. The only thing that keeps us in this foster/adoptive world is the kids. . .and knowing we have been called by our Jesus to love these kids for Him. Hang in there, friend. After losing your beautiful son, there will be bad days, but there will be good days, too. Hold tight to Jesus, pray like crazy for him and his aunt/uncle, and trust, trust, trust God.