I was sitting at the computer typing and I could see him out of the corner of my eye pacing back and forth. I stopped and asked if everything was alright. I could tell he was fighting back tears. I asked "what's wrong buddy?" and the floodgates opened. Poor boy! He was just crying and saying how much he's going to miss to Choo Choo. He then started asking lots of questions....
- Does his uncle have our phone number? Can he call us?
- Can we send him birthday presents?
- Will I ever see him again?
- How will I be able to remember him?
- Will he remember me?
- Can I send him pictures?
- Can I write him letters?
I emailed with the CM the other day and my FDS is trying to set up a therapy appointment for him here with our kids and then also at his uncles and the new daycare. This therapist will need to approve the transition plan the CM is drawing up. I told her that 4 months (what the judge suggested) is too long. I think 6-8 weeks max is more along the lines of appropriate. He is very familiar with them and drawing this whole thing out for 4 months is going to be pure torture on everyone. He is already starting to act out and having more and more tantrums that are not his typical tantrums. He is having trouble sleeping as well.
As Choo Choo is gone for longer periods of time I know more will come out and it will probably be behavior-wise. When Choo Choo returns from these long visits it will also be difficult. I am hoping the therapist is helpful in ways to help all my children work through this transition.